You Become What You Believe – Even Is Illness
I’m a big believer that we are what we think about most of the time. This includes our health. I’ve seen patients so focused on their disease it consumes them and never seems to improve. They’re locked in the negative thoughts about their situation. Is your health related to your thoughts? Sometimes it takes a little faith in yourself to open the door to better health. Let me explain.
Have you ever heard someone say, “My doctor says people my age all have arthritis or pain?” Too often patients come in with the belief that age or ‘that it’s normal’ to have pain, hot flashes, insomnia, etc.
While it’s common in today’s world, it’s not normal. Today I want to invite you to change your beliefs. Your health is related your thoughts. Your beliefs affect how quickly you heal or how much relief you receive from any treatment.
Do You Have Faith In Yourself
It’s simple; I had a patient come in who didn’t believe acupuncture would help their problem. After a few treatments, their pain was 30% improved despite their belief that they had pain because everyone their age did. Now they had ‘faith’. A belief that pain didn’t affect everyone in their generation. They continued to improve to 75%.
If our mindset helps or hinders our healing why can’t we have 100% relief or health? Our bodies do age. The patient above was in their 60’s. He began to exercise, walk and changed his diet little by little all things that increased his general health. He believed now he could improve himself.
Belief is a funny thing. It only works in the present. It creates our current moment. Past events are shaped by our memories and then form a belief now. These usually are absolutes such as “all people my age have arthritis.” Or perhaps, “Women my age all lose interest in sex.” Maybe, “My mom had hot flashes and was over-weight that’s why I’m this way..” Finally, “All the people in my family have high cholesterol so I knew I would too.” I know you have others that play inside your mind. These are beliefs that stop you from having a healthier life.
We are a team. What you think matters. What you do between visits increases your health and make it seem like you are aging backward! Is your health related to your thoughts? I feel it is.
Is Your Health Related To Your Thoughts?
This is true for my fertility patients too! Recently a couple against all odds became parents. Their tests with the fertility center didn’t look hopeful. They believed if they did acupuncture, a healthier diet, along with the IVF they’d become parents. Proactive health says you’re in control of your wellness and taking action to achieve your goals.
Where are you proactive in your wellness? Learn more about how natural medicine and acupuncture along with changing how you think about your health can help you live a more enjoyable life.
**Debra is a certified natural health practitioner, health and life coach, . She has degrees or certifications in homeopathy, acupuncture, Emotional acupuncture EMT, Chinese Medicine, and more. **
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‘What is it you want to die from?” Some clients stop and think before answering this question when asked, others reply right away. Do you know your answer?
I know my answer – ‘old age’ what’s yours?
Do You Want To Die From Negativity?
The other day I was speaking with my mother-in-law about some of our friends who haven’t yet retired. My husband and I still work and love our careers. She blurted out, “ they probably can’t afford to retire!”
I gently replied. “We don’t talk like that it’s so negative and just not a good way to think.” They haven’t retired because they love their work. Those that have retired have gone full time into service or charity. One couple a past teacher and nurse, volunteer full time now, while a couple10 years older still works because they love their careers.” I’m talking about people in their 70’s.
Are you wondering how these 2 things are related? How death and retirement relate. Our thinking determines our health. Healthy people have a wellness view of their life or a positive outlook. Usually, they’re quick to answer what they want to die from.
I Want To Die From Happiness
This is the second thing, they know they want to die happy. In their sleep, on a beach, with their lover, but they don’t wish to die of cancer, have a heart attack or worse be murdered.
So what’s your answer? When I asked the question what is it you want to die from did you stop to think of a laundry list of things you don’t want to die from?
What You Don’t Want To Die From
Many people begin a commentary on not wanting to die from Cancer, or Diabetes, Alzheimer’s, and so on…others stop and think they ponder. I don’t wish to die from anything.
Can we change the landscape of dying? We know we leave this earth, but we also understand what we don’t want to die from – disease or in pain.
This is a good place to start. Realize what you don’t want to die from and plan to live. Some say death is permanent. Who’s to know when it comes to the soul? This isn’t a religious article though we do know the physical body dies.
We know most people are afraid of death yet we plan so poorly for an event we know will happen – period.
Changing The Landscape Of Dying
I want to die from old age. It’s not planned where just how, from old age. I have some ability to predict my way to go by investing living healthy. Changing the landscape of dying is important. Nursing homes and pharmacies are full of people dying of disease. Many are in pain and unhappy.
I will be happy because I live a life full of love with great friendships, an excellent spouse, and fantastic children. I would pass on happy even without a family because I have a strong group of friends and a great support system.
I will die of old age because I invest in health – my health. My method of health coaching or functional medicine centers around 12 core beliefs. We just talked about the first. Joy or happiness. It’s our viewpoint of life. I use it here to talk about what I want to die from. That sounds like a joyful way to pass on don’t you think?
Living a life full of happiness is up to you. Do you think of things from the perspective of negativity? I wrote an article on when to listen to negative comments this is not the same thing.
When we worry or focus on negativity, we produce more of it in our lives. Call it what you want – the law of attraction, you get what you think about most. Maybe you feel more comfortable viewing this subject scientifically. If we look at this from a scientific viewpoint, the endorphins and pheromones you’re sending out through the pores of your body, bring you what you want or what you don’t desire!
Let’s look at three things you can do to be more in control of what you die from.
Invest In Health – Die Of Old Age
1. The first thing we’ve talked about here is the most important thing you can do to invest in a healthy you.
Focus on a new way to look at life. If it’s snowing and you have to drive home in rush hour, don’t think about how much you have to do when you get there, focus on something positive.
Maybe it’s a great time to listen to that book on tape you rented about Highly Effective Relationships or sing along to the new CD of your favorite singer.
Invest in your health. Stop talking about losing weight, or trying diet after diet spend time learning about your bio-individuality and embrace the beautiful person that is you. Sometimes working with a health coach for 6 months is the best way to discover the healthy way to live your life.
This isn’t just weight loss, it’s back pain, arthritis, even getting the upper hand on something like diabetes or IBS. Heck you don’t have to have a health problem to know what it is you want to die from.
2. Smile 5 times more often than you do now each day. Feel and live in a place of joy as often as you can even if no one else around you is happy.
If you aren’t often smiling now, try smiling 5 times today. If you’re a person, who walks around with a smile on their face all day long. You have this covered. Research shows that people who smile live
By now, as a reader of this post you know what you want to die from, so turn those lips upward you’re on your way. Changing the landscape of dying is an individual decision. I feel it’s also a social goal since it makes great economic sense.
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Can one tiny habit at a time make you healthy? I believe this is possible and easy. I am not the only person who feels this way. BJ Fogg did a fantastic video for TED Talks.
In this video, you will learn how to take one small step at a time to reach your maximum potential. This isn’t just about health, you can apply the knowledge to relationships, physical activity, and your spiritual path.
My favorite story in this video has to do with flossing only one tooth. Watch the funny reaction of the audience to this event. BJ Fogg keen interest in behavior is apparent as he takes us on an enlightening journey into who we are and how easy re-inventing yourself can be.
What Tiny Habit Are You Ready To Change?
Using one tiny habit at a time, you can make it easy to crowd out things you want to change. One habit I changed was my desire to stop eating bread at every meal. Instead of trying to stop altogether at first, I only chose to eat it less often and ate more healthy foods as a replacement.
Lunch was when I removed bread. I eat my chicken salad on a bed of lettuce instead, and I increased the amount of other vegetables like celery one of my favorites.
I am careful with fruit because of the high sugar content. I drink tea so I added a banana on the side. It sounds odd, but Ginger Pineapple tea and fruit is fantastic as a mid-afternoon snack.
Another tiny habit I started; eating more often and smaller meals. People in Europe have done this for centuries and they don’t struggle with weight as much as Americans.
Are you ready for TEDTV? Watch the video and then continue reading some ideas you can use to create wellness.
Wellness A Path To Longer Life
I hope you enjoyed the video and you’re thinking of one tiny habit you would like to ‘add’ to your life. Maybe it’s about food. It can be eating one more serving of vegetables daily. Perhaps it’s about relationships. Just saying I love you to a dear one once a day could be your goal. It could be smiling at a stranger once a day.
The Smile – A Tiny Habit
I had a patient who did this. She came in complaining about other people. My suggestion was to find one person that frustrated them each day [she was easily irritated] and to take a deep breath and then smile.
“Kary” was motivated. Her employer had noted a few complaints. After one week, she returned. At first she was quite, looking down at your folded hands. Then she told me how angry she was at herself. You see, she was irritated with herself. Sometimes others are a mirror for us.
Now Kary had started smiling at people and breathing when they did something that bothered her. She was troubled by things people did; she secretly didn’t like these traits about herself. Kary decided to start coaching along with her acupuncture visits. Together we were able to use emotional acupuncture therapy to help her relax, and sleep better. Health coaching had a significant impact for Kary; she was able to use the mindset skills to enhance her happiness!
Tiny Habits For Mindset
You can do this with your mindset too. Start with your attitude for instance. So what if you told yourself you were awesome once a day? This simple statement can take life inside you and help you have more happiness. How about the one tiny habit of walking every day and agreeing to feel more energy daily can it actually work? You’ll have to try to find out but first watch this fun and provocative video first!
Make each day be a tiny step toward a healthier you. It’s not a big change that wins the day it’s those tiny habits that help us be happy and have more energy. Whether your health is excellent or you’re feeling at a loss for how to start making changes happen. Have fun doing it and know we here at Accent On Health, care about you! Take action and Start With One Tiny Habit.
Other resources about habits: http://tinyhabits.com/
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Anais Nin a mid-20th-century author wrote: “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” Anais was telling us to have the courage to envision a greater life, a bigger realm of success for ourselves. She often talked about this and I think she read Emmet Fox; who wrote an entire work, The Mental Equivalent. This single book inspires millions to change their mindset around illness, careers, relationships, even money.
When we talk about our success in our life, think about what Mr. Fox said. “You must not under any pretense allow your mind to dwell on any thought that is not positive, constructive, optimistic, kind.” Our very success in all the primary areas of life depends on controlling your mind and thoughts. So how do we do this creatively and magnificently in our lives? How do we add it to our health and wellness?
Believing bigger for yourself is mental equivalence. It is the ability to change how you manifest your reality in life. Most people have past experiences that taught them to think of themselves as ‘less-than’ instead of ‘more than’. It’s easy to tell yourself that you are overweight because your family trait is such.
We know genetics play a smaller role than once thought, and how you eat, and think mean more. The lack of physical activity like walking can make a huge difference for many. Empowering my clients to see themselves for the joy they really are is a big part of health coaching.
You may have heard how money was tight or that you were not good enough at some time in your past. This can play out in our careers, our relationships, and our personal self-image too.
Using Mental Equivalent In The Primary Foods Of Daily Living
Primary foods are not what we place in our mouths but the things that make life worth living and enjoying. You cannot buy or sell this special nourishment. These life sources feed our hearts and our souls, giving us the life we want and deserve. One of these nourishments is our relationships with others.
Using Mental Equivalent for Success in Relationships
When you think of love, do you believe in small love that keeps you safe and means you have someone to sleep next to at night? Or do you desire and set your mind on a course with a significant love that fills your heart full and makes you smile? The level of a loving relationship in your life is the size of your Mental Equivalent.
When we think of physical problems, telling yourself that knee pain is to be expected at your age, is not positive, constructive, optimistic, or being kind to yourself.
These 3 steps will help you move more into creating success with a Mental Equivalent in your life.
The First Step Is To Be Patient With Yourself
Be ready to pull yourself gently back when you realize a thought is not positive, constructive, optimistic, kind.
“Mary” a health coaching client, sounded angry on her bi-monthly call. I asked her what was wrong; I could almost feel the heat of anger through the phone. “My mother is at it again. Telling me, I will always be fat because she is! Doesn’t she understand how much this hurts.” Her voice trailed off.
My job wasn’t to tell Mary to ignore your mother, or have a snappy comeback. It was to ask her how she felt when this happened. What thought she had before calling her parents home.
She went into a lethargy of how she knew this was what her mother would say. Mary didn’t want to talk to her but felt compelled to do it anyway even though she knew exactly what would happen.
Be Present With A Beneficial And Constructive Image Of What You Want
This prep-story was a mental equivalence, just like Ernest Holmes suggest we do. It manifested just as she asked and planned. Now she was adding to this desire by continuing the destructive memory over and over.
As hard as it can be to pull back. If you find yourself not creating a positive mental image then don’t make a phone call. It may be weeks before you return a call. You may have to send an email and simply tell the person you love them but right now you’re working on a big project and will call them soon. That project is your well-being.
Sometimes we’re ready to make that interaction. It can be with a boss or co-worker. You may have little time to think about this. Using Mental Equivalence or ME, can go something like this.
Be Optimistic About Your Ability to Use Mental Equivalent For Your Higher Good
Write out in your journal all the positive things you want to take place. My boss smiles at me. She tells me she likes something I am wearing or doing. She blesses me with her mentoring on something I want to improve. She brings light into our interaction and I bring light too.
Don’t expect your boss to criticize you or correct you. See it as mentoring from this person.
Now that it is written it’s more powerful. Say it many times daily and as you go to meet with this person. If you don’t have time to do this just keep seeing in your minds’ eye the image a encouraging time and saying thoughts of kindness, positivity, and blessing for the meeting.
Bonus. Be Kind Without Attachment To The Outcome
It takes practice and sometimes you don’t know the entire result. Remember the other person is envisioning what they want and it could be thoughtless on their part for a successful outcome.
If this happens you have placed your energy at a higher frequency and you’ll not be attached to the outcome. The last thing you want to do is leave this encounter and say to yourself, “I knew it wouldn’t go well!” That means you didn’t actually hold a place for a higher outcome and you got exactly the mental equivalence expect, you just didn’t admit it to yourself.
Mary knew she would likely struggle with being Twiggy but a sexy big-size model was something she could accomplish. Using pictures from magazines, she had formed a perfect mental equivalent of success for herself before she phoned home again.
This time when her mom asked how dieting was going Mary had a quick reply, “I see myself looking beautiful each day mom, how’s dad doing?”
Sometimes using a mental equivalent of success also means stopping the flow of other people’s negativity to realize success. Over time, Mary chose to end calls with her parents if the tone turned destructive. Over time, her mother learned not to bring the topic up if she wanted to a relationship with her daughter.
A Mental Equivalent Of Success
You are always successful at creating your reality. Why not practice creating success in your life? For me, this came in the way of building an image in my mind, placing in on paper in my journal around my health coaching practice and acupuncture center. It is a reality because I see this in my mind’s eye daily and give thanks for the blessing of this.
A mental equivalent of success is working in you right now. Do you like what you’re creating? If not, practice. Think of it this way. You want to be better at golf or piano, or cooking. Would you practice or just wish it to be so and continue thinking about how ‘poor’ you play or bad you cook?
Ernest Holmes said, “We should never lose sight of the fact that we are each given the individual right to use the law [cause & effect], and that we cannot escape from using it.”
I chose to use Mental Equivalency in my life to create a loving relationship with my husband and children. To be financially successful as I help millions of people with their health and wellness. I accept Mental Equivalent into my life in a positive way to prosper and live a deeper spiritual path.